Going through a divorce can be an emotionally upsetting time, but for many couples where the split is amicable they can resolve things speedily and without causing any unnecessary stress by keeping things civil throughout the entire process. Obviously, this is the best case scenario, but if you are also hoping to handle this period with sensitivity and maturity, here are some tips on how to keep things civil during a divorce, to the benefit of both parties.
Being respectful of each other
The key thing to remember when going through a divorce is to be respectful of each other. Yes, divorce is an upsetting time and during the process there may be some additional tension which could flare into heated arguments, however try to remember the bigger picture and focus on the future instead of dwelling on past issues. Things said in the heat of the moment can have lasting consequences, so always try to maintain this level of professionalism and respect to end things in a healthy way.
Maintaining open lines of communication
To keep things civil during a divorce, always try to maintain open lines of communication. Most couples will choose their own solicitor to represent them during the divorce, so it’s in everyone’s best interests to make sure that you keep your solicitor aware of any changes, any concerns and any requests and in turn they should do the same with your partner and their legal team. When things break down in a marriage and it’s not possible to have these calm and rational conversations, you will rely on your solicitor to act as the third-party mediator.
Remember where your shared best interests are
For most couples with children, the primary focus will be on their care and protecting their future. In order to keep things civil, you should never involve your children in negative conversations about your partner and never ask them to choose sides. You need to remember that this will be a stressful time for them too, so if they have questions or show concerns, make time to address them together.
Make sure everything is in writing
Difficult marriages can end in complicated divorces, but the best way to make sure everything gets resolved properly is to have it stated in writing and communicated with your solicitor.
Get a professional solicitor to represent you
Keeping things civil during a divorce is made all the easier when you have a professional and courteous legal team on your side, who can handle your divorce case with sensitivity and tact. Naturally, we will defend you to the highest degree, but we can do so whilst ensuring that things remain civil between you and your partner. Our skilled team are excellent negotiators and can also provide family arbitration and mediation services should you require them. Want to find out more? Get in touch with us and see how we can help.